Online Video Dating
How do I get started with video dating?
Simple. Just log in and click on My Profile in the menu at the top of the screen. Then click on the "My Video" tab.
You need to be sure that you have a webcam and microphone connected to your computer. (You can record a Video Dating profile without a microphone, but it will be a silent movie!) Some webcams have built in microphones, some don't and some particularly posh computers already have both built in.
The next thing you may see is a message asking if you want to allow userplane.com to access your webcam. Don't panic! Userplane is a company that hosts our Video Dating service on our behalf. Click 'Allow' and you will be told if we can detect your video camera or not.
If you've connected your camera, but can see a message that says "No Camera Connected or Recognised" then you should refer to the manufacturer's instructions for your webcam.
So are you all set? Right then... lights, cameras, action!
How do I record my video dating profile?
You have up to 30 seconds of video time to record your message. That might sound quite short, but you can actually say quite a lot in 30 seconds. So here are a few pointers to help you make the most of your time:
- Spend some time before you start recording on planning out what you've got to say. Umming and erring and scratching your nose is not going to particularly help your chances of getting a date!
- Practice a couple of times, perhaps in front of the mirror. This will help you to appear confident on video and avoid fluffing your lines or making silly mistakes.
- Speak clearly. Most computer microphones are not particularly good and so if you mumble, you'll be as intelligible as Marlon Brando in The Godfather.
- Don't panic! If you should make a complete hash of your video, you're not stuck with it. You can always start again and get it right.
How do I light and shoot my webcam profile?
Lighting, my dear, is everything. Just ask Joan Collins!
But most webcams are not hugely good quality, so no one is expecting your effort to look like a Stephen Spielberg film. However, there are a couple of things you can do to make the most of whatever equipment you have and avoid looking like a Hammer horror!
Frame your shot properly to make sure your face is clearly visible in the shot and that you haven't cut off the top of your head or your chin (potential dates will want to see the whole of your face).
Place yourself an appropriate distance from the camera. You don't want to come out looking like a giant face, but neither do you want to be a teeny tiny figure on the horizon. As a guideline, about 2-3 feet from the camera is a good idea, although this will vary depending on the make and model of webcam you are using.
Think about lighting. Experiment with putting your light source in different places. You don't want it so close that it bleaches you out, but you do want enough light to be seen. If you place the light source too low down, you risk looking like the Creature from Beyond the Grave. Too high and people may think you have a Jesus complex.
Hot tip - the professionals use at least two different light sources when shooting videos: one from above and slightly off to one side, and the other filling in from the other side.
Dress appropriately. This is, after all, a dating site. You wouldn't turn up to a first date in a curry-stained t-shirt full of holes (or maybe you would, but we wouldn't advise it), so don't do it on your video. Pick something that makes you look good instead.
Remember that you can always go back and record again. So try a few different arrangements until you get the shot you're looking for.
Are there any rules for video dating?
We don't like too many rules, as dating should be "fun fun fun", as the Beach Boys would say. But there are a few basic ones that we have to apply to video dating to make sure that nobody gets upset.
These are the rules and we must all stick to them:
- No nudity or topless videos (men and women). Save the nudity for when you've got to know them a little better, please. Some of our partner companies also have legal concerns that prevent us from showing topless images of men. Videos displaying genitals, nipples or bare bottoms will not be approved. Bikini shots are usually OK.
- No contact information please. This is for your own safety and our moderators will have to delete your video if you try to use it to pass on contact details verbally or otherwise.
- No videos of children or legal minors. This should speak for itself. We understand that you may want to show off your kids. But a dating site for adults is not the place to do this, and we cannot and will not allow images of children to be displayed anywhere in your dating profile.